I had to go to court last week. The specifics of the case are not important.. However, the lesson I learned from the experience is. I learned that some people have no respect for the judicial process. When some people stand before a judge, raise their right hand and swear to tell the truth, it means nothing to them.
I took going to court very seriously. It's not something I thought I'd ever have to do. It was very intimidating. The courtroom looked similar to ones I'd see on T.V. For a minute I thought, it wasn't real, but then my name was called and I knew it was.
The judge listened both sides and I won my case. All I kept asking myself was, "How could the other person involved in the case not have told the truth?" I won. I should have been happy. It should not have mattered to me that they lied to try and prove their case, but it did.
I have been told people lie everyday. That's sad. What kind of message does that send to children? Tell the truth, but if you are in some kind of trouble that might have serious consequences for you, it's okay to lie. Say anything you have to that will prove your case and get you out of trouble. Even if it means breaking an oath in court.
I hope the message we want to convey to children is to always tell the truth and admit when you have done something wrong. The consequences will be far less if you do.
I know some of you are reading this and thinking how naive I am. You are wondering why I would waste an enire post writing about how some people lie to keep themselves out of trouble. I wrote this because it was important to me to share my feelings. Thanks for indulging me.
The issue is that of respect. Respect for yourself and others. If you lie you have no self respect. And without self respect you have nothing.